This National Coming Out Day, I’m Coming Out… as an Ally!
October 11th has recently has been adopted by my bff’s in the LGBT community as National “Coming Out” Day. But like, the whole idea of having to come out is like sooo f-ed up!!! There really shouldn’t be this societal norm of straight being the default anymore. No one should assume other’s sexualities, like come on! It’s 2019. Plus, its so cool to be gay nowadays. Like, Drag Race just won so many Emmys. So, in an act to support my gay friend, Sam, who isn’t out to his parents yet, I decided to come out myself today… as an ALLY of the LGBTQIA community!
To show my support, I called my parents this morning and told them the big news. I told them that I was inspired by the friends in the movie Love, Simon. I took Sam to see it in theatres when it came out (haha... no pun intended) so he could finally have a positive role model to look up to. My parents were totally accepting of me and who I am, but the emotional labor I had to go through to even explain what being an ally meant was exhausting! I almost didn’t even have the energy to go to my discussion section today, and attendance is, like, a big part of my grade.
I met up with Sam later in the day to check in on this gay holiday, and told him about my supportive action. Unfortunately, Sam was still uncomfortable coming out to his conservative Christian parents, which sucks! Apperently, his uncle is gay and his mom hasn’t talked to him in years or something, and Sam is totally in his head about it. I mean, what are parents for if not conditional love. Plus, Sam isn’t even that gay, so I tried to help convince him he didn’t have too much to worry about. That’s the thing about coming out. It gives agency and power to the individual, and Sam is one powerful motherfucking queer. So it’s only time until he gets over his fears! And i will be there, proudly by his side.
So to all my gay, lesbian, trans (okay I don’t actually know any trans people but I do love them!), straight, white, male,friends , I stand with you. Coming out of the closet is a scary life event. But as someone who recently just came out myself, as unconditionally and completely straight, I am here for you.